It’s been a very long time coming, but I decided to finally share my story. I was a lot like you when I started going through my divorce… I was terrified, hopeless, frozen in fear, stuck…. I even hit my rock bottom (I’ll share details in the video below). Thankfully, I was able to find a way to stop survival mode and start living my life to the fullest (even better than before). Listen to the video below to hear my quick story, there is hope! .
I wanted to tell you guys about how I came from this really low, low place to completely thriving in my life. I found something that helped me from one of the hardest things in my life to completely thriving, and just loving life.
When I started my divorce process, I was at this point in my life where I felt:
- Hopeless; at a loss
- Completely terrified
- Frozen In Fear
- Ready to Give Up
After hitting complete rock bottom and nearly taking my life, I realized it was TIME FOR A CHANGE!!! I couldn’t keep allowing my toxic marriage and divorce to define me, I couldn’t allow myself to live below anything other than joy and happiness any longer- I deserved to thrive again; to rebuild, reconnect, grow and live my desires. It was time to figure out how to do that!
I found that through a lot of self-attention and taking some specific steps that I had researched and learned, I was able to not only pull myself out of a very, very, very dark place but I was able to work through one of the hardest times of my life, and not just survive, but fully thrive on the other side of it.
My marriage was a very toxic environment (we were both at fault in different ways)… He was an addict and I was Co-dependent, refusing to get help needed to be a good partner to a recovering addict. I began resenting him for what he was putting us through instead of offering the support an addict needs to recover. Because of this dynamic, there were many toxic blowups and it was during one of those toxic blow ups that I actually nearly ended my life. Thankfully, I was not successful and I had a rude awakening that this was a breaking point for me. It was either figure this out and improve the situation and myself or else things could end up much more tragically. It was time to take the actions needed to rebuild myself, re-grow, and understand why this divorce was such a difficult process.
I decided to do something about it – to turn my life around and choose to actually use my divorce situation to rebuild, grow and thrive in my life. I ended up completely happy on the other side. I started learning absolutely everything I could. I started getting therapy, I started getting coaching, I paid for coaching programs, I read everything I could find under the sun related to divorce recovery, I spent hours and hours and hours (thankfully I had the freedom to do that in my career at the time). I learned everything I could about what goes on during divorce with your brain, how the brain works and neuroscience. I started implementing the things that I was researching. I used everything that I learned from getting professional help to the things that I was researching on my own to basically create my own healing process. I dove headfirst into it.
What I found is once I did that, everything in my life started thriving and I fell in love with myself again.
Once I realized how life changing the simple process I adapted was, I went on to get my coaching certification so that I could use this program that I’ve adapted and created to help others get through the experience that I got through. What I’m looking to do now is to help others that are where I was. Maybe you aren’t as desperate as I was; maybe you haven’t reached that rock bottom and great, let’s prevent that from happening.
I want others to not just survive through the divorce and separation process, but truly thrive. Whether you are entering into it, if you’re in the middle of it, or even if you’ve been through it but you just need to rebuild…divorce and separation are one of the most traumatic things that you can go through in life. You owe it to yourself; you deserve to step into the thriving part of your life that can exist on the other side.
I went from literally nearly taking my own life to completely thriving, even on the hardest of days. Now I have all of the tools and resources I need to quickly bounce back. And overall, I have a high quality of life that I’m living now, in my mind and my actions.
I am super excited to share some stuff in the coming weeks with you guys on how I did that.
I wanted to let you guys know I actually have a completely free group support group system for you guys on Facebook.
Let me know in the comments what the hardest part of the divorce situation has been for you so that we can cheer you on through it